Ages 3–6

Early Childhood

At this age, big feelings show up as the whole body: meltdowns, refusal, running, crashing into things...

Show it, don't just say it

Before asking your child to try something new below, do it yourself first, out loud, a little exaggerated, where they can see you. This is called modeling, and it's one of the most well-researched teaching tools there is. No camera or script needed: just do the motion, narrate it ("I'm taking a big breath in..."), then invite them to try. If your child responds well to rewatching things, a short video of yourself (or them, once they've got it) doing it successfully works even better, that's video modeling, also backed by decades of research.

Regulate the nervous system

Movement & heavy work, disguised as play

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Animal Walks

Crab walk, bear crawl, or hopping like a frog to provide deep sensory input.

🐻waddle like a bear
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Trampoline Bounce

A controlled way to get "rhythmic input" that calms the vestibular system.

🏀bounce, bounce, bounce
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Deep Pressure Squeeze

Firm hugs or "burrito rolls" in a blanket to help ground a dysregulated child.

🤗squeeze tight, let go
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Wall Push-Ups

Pushing against a solid wall to provide proprioceptive feedback.

💪push, then rest

Breathing & calm-down

Simple enough for little kids to actually do

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Bunny Breathing

Three quick sniffs through the nose, one long exhale through the mouth.

🐰sniff sniff sniff, big breath out
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Bubble Breathing

Slow, controlled exhales as if blowing the "perfect, giant bubble."

🫧blow gently, watch it float
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Balloon Breathing

Hands on head, "inflate" by raising arms up, and "deflate" by letting them go.

🎈arms float up, then drop down
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Flower and Candle Breathing

Hold up an open hand (or a pretend flower), breathe in slowly through the nose to "smell" it, then breathe out slowly through the mouth like blowing out birthday candles. One of the most classic calm-down breaths, easy for little ones to picture and repeat.

🌸smell the flower, blow the candle
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Butterfly Hug

Cross your arms over your chest like a butterfly. Pat one shoulder, then the other, slow and gentle.

🦋pat, pat, slow and gentle

Fine motor

Building little hands through play

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Puffball Color Sort

Sort craft puffballs by color into cups or an egg carton, using fingers or child-safe tweezers.

🧶pinch and sort by color
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Painter's Tape Peel

Stick short strips of painter's tape to a table; child peels each one off. Builds the pincer grip used for writing later.

peel each little strip
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Ring Stack & Sort

Small rings stacked by color on pegs or dowels (stacked bean bags by color work too if there are no pegs handy).

🔵stack rings by color
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Big-Lace Threading Practice

Large beads or a big-hole practice board with a thick lace, no tying yet, just building the hand strength that makes shoelace tying possible later.

🧵thread through the hole

Balance & coordination

Whole-body games, no equipment required

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Cone Weave Walk

Set 4–5 cones in a line, child walks or hops in a zigzag through them. Game it: "don't wake the dragons": knock a cone, freeze for 3 seconds.

🚧zigzag through the cones
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Bean Bag Balance Beam

A painter's-tape line on the floor; child walks it balancing a bean bag on their head or hand.

🚶walk slow, stay steady
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Cross-Body Bean Bag Pass

Sit or stand, pass a bean bag from right hand to left foot and back, reaching across the body each time.

Backed by: crossing-midline practice used in pediatric OT

🔄pass hand to opposite foot
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Hoop Hop Path

Hoops laid in a path; child jumps hoop to hoop, alternating landing on one foot and two feet.

hop from hoop to hoop

Social skills

The earliest building blocks of turn-taking

Before the games: try mirroring instead of teaching

Instead of showing your child what to do, try copying what they're already doing. If they're stacking blocks, stack yours the same way, right next to them. If they make a sound, make it back. This isn't correcting or directing, it's showing them "I see what you're doing, and I'm doing it too." This is called Reciprocal Imitation Training, and it's backed by real research on building the imitation and engagement skills that make everything else, including the games below, come more naturally.

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Rolling Ball Circle Game

Sit in a circle, roll a ball or bean bag to each person and say their name: the simplest form of turn-taking and paying attention to others.

roll it to a friend
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Copy-Me Movement Game

Take turns being the "leader" doing a movement (arms up, hop, spin) while everyone else copies.

🪞copy the leader's move
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Color Cone Sharing Game

Only enough cones for everyone if they take turns and share: a gentle, built-in lesson in waiting.

🤝take turns, one cone each

At home & preschool

Small tools that make a big difference

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A "calm corner"
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Weighted lap pad
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A warning before transitions
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A small fidget or squeeze toy

Everyday tasks that feel hard

Bath time, brushing teeth, and getting dressed

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